Friday
Nov052010
"My son is gay" and It's a Baby!
Friday, November 5, 2010 at 11:39AM
You've probably already read this, but I have to repost it here, because dang, this woman is smart, funny, and right on target.
My Son is Gay at Nerdy Apple Bottom
I laughed aloud when I read this:
"If you think that me allowing my son to be a female character for Halloween is somehow going to ‘make’ him gay then you are an idiot. Firstly, what a ridiculous concept. Secondly, if my son is gay, OK. I will love him no less. Thirdly, I am not worried that your son will grow up to be an actual ninja so back off."
EXACTLY.
This is why it is so important to me that we wait until our baby is born to find out its sex.
I read Adrienne Rich during my junior year of college, and I cried a little when I came upon the passage where she wished for all human beings that when a baby is born, the exclamation isn't, "It's a boy!" or "It's a girl!" but "It's a baby!"
You may call me naive or sentimental for finding this so important, but stories like the above -- and recent news -- illustrate why this is not just a matter of semantics.
I will not allow myself or anyone else to project their gender baggage onto my baby while it's still developing in my womb. Our baby will have to deal with gender assumptions, pressure/bullying, socialization, and choices soon enough.
S/he can live beyond gender for a few months more, while s/he is still in my body.
My Son is Gay at Nerdy Apple Bottom
I laughed aloud when I read this:
"If you think that me allowing my son to be a female character for Halloween is somehow going to ‘make’ him gay then you are an idiot. Firstly, what a ridiculous concept. Secondly, if my son is gay, OK. I will love him no less. Thirdly, I am not worried that your son will grow up to be an actual ninja so back off."
EXACTLY.
This is why it is so important to me that we wait until our baby is born to find out its sex.
I read Adrienne Rich during my junior year of college, and I cried a little when I came upon the passage where she wished for all human beings that when a baby is born, the exclamation isn't, "It's a boy!" or "It's a girl!" but "It's a baby!"
You may call me naive or sentimental for finding this so important, but stories like the above -- and recent news -- illustrate why this is not just a matter of semantics.
I will not allow myself or anyone else to project their gender baggage onto my baby while it's still developing in my womb. Our baby will have to deal with gender assumptions, pressure/bullying, socialization, and choices soon enough.
S/he can live beyond gender for a few months more, while s/he is still in my body.
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